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I'm a straight guy in a LTR with a bi woman. We recently had a threesome with a bi male acquaintance. We made it clear that I'm not into guys and that she was going to be the center of attention. He said he was fine with this. A little bit into us hooking up, he said he wanted to suck my dick.
I wasn't sure about it at first, but my girlfriend encouraged it because she thought it was hot. I ended up saying yes, but I stated that I didn't want to reciprocate. A bit later, while my girlfriend was sucking his dick, he said he wanted me to join her. I said no, he kept badgering me to do it, I kept saying no, and then he physically tried to shove my head down toward his crotch. My girlfriend and I both got pissed and said he had to leave. Now he's bitching to our mutual friends about how I had an insecure straight-boy freak-out, he didn't get to come after we both got ours, we're shitty selfish fetishists, and so on.
I'm concerned about what our friends think of me, but even more so, I'm concerned that I did a shitty thing.
I get that maybe he was hoping I'd change my mind, especially after I changed my mind about him sucking my dick. But I don't think it's fair for him to be angry that I didn't blow him. Is oral reciprocation so necessary that it doesn't matter that we agreed in advance that I wouldn't have to? You did nothing wrong. And if after hearing your side of the story, NOTBI, your mutual friends side with a person who pressured you to do something you were clear about not wanting to do and then, after you restated your opposition to performing said act, pressured you to perform the act—by physically forcing your head down to his cock—you can solve the "mutual friends" problem by cutting these so-called friends out of your life.enter site
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Can a straight guy ethically accept oral sex from his gay buddy? And can another straight guy ethically refuse to give a blow job during a threesome?
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I’m a Straight Guy Who Fell in Love with a Gay Man
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By Salem Collo-Julin By Marianna Beck You see, I have multiple greater women standing behind me. When I first came out to my mom the foremost Great Woman in my life , she asked me why I didn't love women. That's why I don't want to have sex with them.
I've always been straight
I believe that the most shining, transcendent, sublime human bond occurs when a gay boy loves a girl. There's something remarkable yet completely sensible about the union between a gay man and a straight woman. On a shallow, heteronormative level, you seem to have a traditional romance of sorts, in which a boy and a girl care greatly for each other.
But look more closely at this dynamic and the layers become more complex, intertwining like strands of DNA. Without sexual tension and social norms, the love between the two of them is not clouded by expectations or unwelcome erections. Something deeper, something magical, something liberating happens, and the rest is history. It all started for me when I was a sexually confused teenager in high school drama club. Drama club, it turned out, was the mecca of sexually confused teenagers in high school.
I was obese and unhappy, defined mostly by my good grades and utter lack of social skills, when I was cast as Mr. By the way, Anne Frank proved that teenagers can still find time to be sexually confused even with Nazis trying to kill you. Van Daan was played by a beautiful young girl named Julie.
I was in awe of her.
Julie was everything that I had wanted. She was smart and popular. She lived in a gorgeous cabin up in the mountains, surrounded by thoroughbreds. All the boys had crushes on her -- including the precocious gays. But instead of taking a look at me and writing me off like everyone else had, the "bond" between us occurred instantly that first day of rehearsal. Never had a friendship blossomed so easily for me. And when she made me grab her boob backstage and it did nothing for me, our eyes locked, and we knew we were meant to be. It didn't matter that I had put up my walls of insecure self-defense and gay teen self-loathing.
It was a matter of destiny; there was no stopping her. A gay boy and a straight girl fell in love. I slept over at her house and became close with her equally wonderful sister Amy. We went shopping together. We played The Sims a lot these were the early s. Julie made me feel beautiful for the first time in my life. It isn't easy being a double minority. But instead of feeling weird, she made me feel special. And yes, she was my prom date.
Falling in Love With a Gay Man
I wore a pink vest, and it was one of the best nights of my life. You might snicker, but some stereotypes are beautiful. This past Valentine's Day, I spent it with Julie. She cooked dinner, and I brought her the last bunch of dozen red roses at the flower shop, which I had to wrench out of another guy's hands. We ate too much, then passed out on adjacent couches.